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Consider this your cheatsheet through all things life; you know, everything your mama ain't teach ya.

The Freelancer's Guide To Health Over Wealth: Benefits. The Not So Pretty Side Of Being Your Own Boss
Saturday, October 18, 2014 // 2 comments


I'll never forget the day that my cousin (and best friend) Soraya sold everything she owned, packed one suitcase, and booked a flight to NYC to pursue her career in Journalism. "It's time to follow our dreams," she said as she sat at the airport terminal waiting for the plane to arrive. Her and I knew since we were younger that working for ourselves was not even an option and we were finally in our twenties, with resources and experience under our belts, and the determination needed to successfully take on the freelance world. But reality quickly struck as we grew older. Soraya turned 26 and the reality of not having health insurance hit her like a ton of bricks. Although she was the New York Coorespondant for a high-volume site and the site manager for an MTV2 Personality, the reality of the situation was that she was still self-employed.

"So what are we going to do about benefits?", she asked as she got kicked off of her dad's health insurance policy and that's when I realized: "Oh shoot, I'm about to be 26 too!". I've seen the cost of my Gynecologist bills before and after insurance and I'm really not trying to be one emergency away from financial disaster.

So where do we start as freelancers, business owners, or employees of companies with not-so-hot insurance policies? I'd suggest test-driving Aflac's Open Enrollment. Soraya and I will be hitting them up, simply to hear our options and to pick a healthcare plan that works best for us. We're going with Aflac because they offer cash benefits (like a reward program) as they insure you and you can use those benefits to pay rent, gas, groceries, child care or any other out-of-pocket expenses. (And you guys know I'm all about reward programs right?)

The United State's Open Enrollment Period is now (a time where you can change whatever plan you have or get a new plan), so definitely take advantage and search for the biggest bang for your buck -- Even if you're working in-house somewhere. What's wealth without health?

Protect your ends.

Welcome to adulthood my friends =).


I was selected for this opportunity as a member of Clever Girls Collective and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.

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L Is For Luxury
Friday, October 17, 2014 // 2 comments

I won't even lie to you when I say that I was always afraid of going there. The place my parents called home before they moved to The Bahamas and then to the United States - Haiti. You know, that place with the earthquake that killed thousands, left many without food or shelter? The place deemed as the poorest country in the world. The one often depicted in the media as one tainted by misery and sadness. Yeah, there.

How would I survive in a place where food was prepared right in front of you? Hibachi. A place where animals were raised, slaughtered, and prepared all by the same person. Whole Foods. And a place where individuals had to wake up early and head to the market place to sell their goods to tourists and shoppers. Corporate America.

Haiti just wasn't for me and for years - twenty four, to be exact - I convinced myself that I could never go.

Years soon passed and as I grew older I became addicted to milking my independence. Traveling was my high and hopping in my car at any chance I could get to see the places that authors often set their novels in was my monthly adventure. My mother was proud of me - she admired my willingness to always be ready to get up and go - and through my new found self-empowerment our relationship became stronger.

"Let's take a mother-daughter trip!", she suggested one random afternoon. Elated, I immediately accepted her invitation. She asked me which days I'd be free to travel and then proceeded to book our trip. "We're going to Haiti!", she said, as she hit send on our flight confirmations and my first reaction was denial. "Nah, she's playing," I said to myself and for weeks it still never dawned on me that this trip would soon become my reality.

Fast forward to our arrival at Fort Lauderdale International Airport and we met up with my mom's best friend's son, Brandon. Brandon was dressed like the cool hipster kid he was - and I was there dressed in my most plain attire. Brandon spoke to me as if I had visited the island before and was quite shocked moreso by my concerns then the fact that I was older than him and hadn't been before.

My mind was in constant conversation with itself from that point forward. How was it that I, a girl who rarely watched TV, didn't read gossip sites, and intentionally tried to stay disconnected from pop culture and media all in an effort to not be brainwashed and a victim of "group think", was the same girl who had preconceived notions about a place I had never gone?

When we arrived in Haiti, Brandon's mother - who owns a hotel, complete with WIFI (something new to the island) - told us that we wouldn't be going to the hotel for a few days and that we'd instead really see Haiti. My first reaction was panic - I needed to let my family and my boyfriend know that I had made it safely. Check In. I looked down at my phone, only to learn that stealing WIFI was pretty impossible since there was not one connection available. Hell, even my cellular bars were non-existent.

6 hours passed and we were driving up the mountains on unpaved roads and people were everywhere - but no one was sad. Kids played games in the street. Women were cooking for the neighborhood. Men were plowing, monitoring the animals, building buildings, and fixing cars. Community.

We stopped every 30-45 minutes, just to buy fresh fruits from the women on the sides of the roads and kids would immediately begin wiping the dust off of the car in hopes of getting a few dollars. But everyone, was happy.

The temperature dropped as we got higher and higher into the mountains and before you knew it we had gone from being in 90 degree weather to being in 65. We spent three days, with no electricity, no shower, and no bathroom - but I had the time of my life. Waking up, walking to the beach, going for long swims, coming back to a bar of soap and a huge bin filled with clean water that our friends drew from the well was an every day occurrence. Being naked and 'showering' outside with the sun shining on you is an experience like no other.

The land was lush. You could pick fruits while walking to the ocean. Animals walked next to you as if you were one of them - no fear, no fight. The food was made from the freshest ingredients, grown in the gardens. The people stuck together, knew each other by name, smiled, waved to one another, made jokes, hugged, kissed.

I felt like I was in the garden of Eden and till this day I selfishly hope that Haiti doesn't advance technologically just because the people have a sense of pride and compassion that I believe no longer exists. People may deem Haiti as "poor" because of the monetary system being almost non-existent and quite hard to come by but the Haitian people are the richest people I have ever encountered in my entire life. The land is abundant, the people proud. I redefined my idea of luxury - and although I never was the type to measure my sense of luxuriousness by the types of cars people drove or the houses they lived in, I now defined luxury by the community, in which, one lived in with a sense of pride and worthiness.

Like the characters in my novels, each role, whether "small" or "large" played a necessary part of telling the story. So regardless of how big or small you feel your role in life is, know that it is a part that is necessary for creating community, loyalty, pride, and faith that keeps the people afloat.

And that my friends,

is luxury.

luxury • noun • \ˈlək-sh(ə-)rē \ • a condition of abundance or great ease and comfort

Be Full and Define Your Luxury.


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I'll Be In California And I'd Love To Meet You In Person!
Tuesday, September 16, 2014 // 1 comments
Hey Friends If you've been reading this blog for a while, you've noticed that I have been missing in action this year. Well remember that From A Wildflower project I launched on 1.1.14? Well, it gained 100K views in first 3 months and I've published entries on the site from over 100 women! Yes - I was the one updating the site twice (and sometimes 3x a day) everyday! Talk about time consuming. The good news, however, is that I've learned so much in just 9 months of running that site that I didn't feel comfortable with updating my personal blog until I was able to implement all of the new things that I've learned! Quality over Quantity, always.

So I'm kicking off my comeback with a meetup! Starting in Los Angeles, California!

And if you live in California, I'd love for you to attend! I've choosing two different dates, two different times, and two different locations in hopes of being able to accommodate those with tight/busy schedules. Don't worry New York, you're next!

So let's grab a bite + a ride a few bikes!
10/3, F • We'll be meeting up at Border Grill @ 7PM for food and drinks!
10/4, S • We'll be renting bikes and cruising' along Venice Beach @ 3PM. & The meet up location is TBA.

So Why Should You Come?! Because:
+ There is power in collaboration! From A Wildflower grew into something great because we collaborated with other bloggers. This hangout will be shared with our readers via pictures and video that we'll be publishing on our social media outlets and blogs! We'll share you with our readers and you can in turn share us with yours! All while building relationships with other bloggers that can blossom into something great!
+ There are no cover charges or fees! We're not charging any entry / hangout fees =P. You'll only have to pay for your food and drinks if you want to eat, drink, or rent bikes!
+ Bring your friends! You don't have to come alone! Bring whoever you'd like, just be sure to let our Event Coordinator know how many seats we'll need to save for you!
+ Bring your camera! Because there will be many photo opps! Need pictures for your blog? Now you'll be surrounded by other bloggers who will be glad to help you capture images of you bike riding along the strip and eating with other bloggers!

I look forward to meeting my California e-friends! And I'm excited about the next cities I'll be visiting. Stay tuned, as I'll be back here on with fresh new content very very soon. =)


Sia / Chandelier
Tuesday, August 19, 2014 // 4 comments
Because this has been my anthem all year.

BreakUp With Your Makeup. Stop Concealing, Start Healing.
Monday, June 30, 2014 // 11 comments

Despite the heat, my summer has been off to a pretty cool start. I've been spending the majority of my time at the beach and let's face it, when it comes to makeup, "ain't nobody got time for that." So I've been rocking my 'dermis and spending my nights with a cake face. But this time, not with products that conceal and hide what I deem my imperfections, but a concoction for maintenance. You see, I write about beauty and skincare because I've suffered with skin issues pretty much my entire life. Hyperpigmentation, dryness, and itchyness? That's my skin in a nutshell. So I take preventative measures before letting things get any worst.

Remember back in 2012 when I told you guys that I was on a mission to have skin that was better than makeup? Well, I've been committed to that journey and I must admit, things have been going pretty well. Although I'm still working on upping my water-drinking game (hey they say it'll drop 10 years off your face!), my skin regimen has been a strict one that consists of fixing problem areas.

For my girls suffering from Rosacea - there are over 16 million of you - I'd recommend you beat it, and I don't mean with makeup. Rosacea, often referred to as adult acne, is a common inflammatory skin condition and Mirvaso is the first and only prescription treatment specifically developed and indicated to treat the persistent facial redness of it. Not only is the cream bomb-diggity, but it's also super easy-to-use and it yields quick results. And the reason why I appreciate Mirvaso so much is because they offer quite a few coupons on their site that you can bring to your pharmacy for discounts!

Covering up your blemishes and redness can be costly and temporary but treating problem areas can build confidence and save you from the hassle of concealing.

Indication: Mirvaso® (brimonidine) topical gel, 0.33% is an alpha adrenergic agonist indicated for the topical treatment of persistent (nontransient) facial erythema of rosacea in adults 18 years of age or older. Adverse Events: In clinical trials, the most common adverse reactions (≥1%) included erythema, flushing, skin burning sensation and contact dermatitis. Warnings/Precautions: Mirvaso Gel should be used with caution in patients with depression, cerebral or coronary insufficiency, Raynaud's phenomenon, orthostatic hypotension, thromboangiitis obliterans, scleroderma, or Sjögren’s syndrome. Alpha-2 adrenergic agents can lower blood pressure. Mirvaso Gel should be used with caution in patients with severe or unstable or uncontrolled cardiovascular disease. Serious adverse reactions following accidental ingestion of Mirvaso Gel by children have been reported. Keep Mirvaso Gel out of reach of children. Not for oral, ophthalmic, or intravaginal use. You are encouraged to report negative side effects of prescription drugs to the FDA. Visit or call 1-800-FDA-1088.


I was selected for this opportunity as a member of Clever Girls Collective and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.


I Woke Up Like This / How To Radiate Overnight
Thursday, May 22, 2014 // 5 comments

I've experienced some of my greatest facial skin progress during the wee hours of the night. And although I want to take credit for these "I Woke Up Like Disz" Findings, I have to give Mother Nature her bed cred' because beauty being an overnight process is a science (and a God) thing. The fact is, our skin does amazing things while we are sleep - so long as we allow it to happen (and give it a couple of friendly boosts along the way). Here, I'm going to share what I call: Overnight Skin Science topped with The Morning Maintenace needed to maintain and further enhance what Mother Nature deems "Beauty Sleep".


sommeil de beauté
+ new cells = new face. as you sleep, your skin's metabolic rate speeds up which increases the production and breakdown of protein. protein is what's needed for cell growth to happen, and cell growth is your skin's way of repairing itself from uv rays and other skin damaging processes. tissue repair + skin rejuvenation takes place while you're sleeping so long as you are in a deep quality sleep. and who doesn't want effortless maintenance of skin errors that may have been caused throughout the day? / so how can you ensure healthy skin repair during this nightly new cell process? make sure your sleep duration exceeds 7 hours. the deeper and longer you sleep, the more your skin's metabolic rate speeds up and allows for the process to happen. also make sure that your face is exfoliated, so chemicals aren't being further embedded into the skin.
+ did you say collagen? people pay for collagen when they realize that their face is aging quickly and that their skin is thinning. allowing yourself the proper amount of quality rest allows for circulation and oxygen to flow to your skin which is known as peripheral vasodilation. this process allows for 'receptors' to spring to life within the blood vessels and grab amino acid molecules (the building blocks) to help build more collagen, all while fluid and toxins are drained. / how can you make sure your blood is healthy? eat a dinner that benefits the heart! salmon, flaxseed, oatmeal, red wine, and these things make the cut! the better the blood, the better the collagen. *cheers* to firm and plump skin!
+ lack of sleep = dark circles and there is a reason why! when there isn't enough sleep, circulation of the blood isn't at it's highest potential thus resulting in skin looking dull and translucent.
+ lather up! nighttime is the best time to use your beauty products as your skin can benefit from them and take them in much better during this cell rejuvenation process. i prefer organic products such as coconut oil in my nightly-lather-on process as i find that it leaves my skin soft, moisturized, and healthy. oh, and it's one of the things in my pantry that has natural spf in it.

+ breakdown eat heart-healthy dinner for firmer skin without botox. exfoliate and rid the skin of dirt and grime for au natural cell rejuvenation. lather up your skin in healthy skincare products. allow your blood to circulate by getting an ample amount of quality rest to ensure brighter complexion that glows.

good morning, beautiful
+ your skin is hydrated but you can hydrate it more. when you wake up, start your morning with a glass (or two) of water. clean water allows for your organs to wake up and be cleansed properly!
+ add spf, even if you're black spf added to the skin protects it from all of the hard work it did overnight! take pride in your skin and form a barrier between it and the uv rays that'll grace over it throughout the day. if you feel like spf is too much of an extra step, add it to your lotion. and if you're a girl who always wonders why her dark marks don't go away, you may want to read this short post on why!
+ go for healthier makeup my new favorite brand is nars. i've been killing their super orgasm, powder foundation with spf 12, their primer and their concealer! so why nars, you ask? because i want skin better than makeup and nars is cruelty-free and vegan, which ultimately means it's less harmful to my skin!

Image Source: Models With No Makeup by François Nars for Nars Cosmetics


These $34 H&M Slippers Are Made For Queens
Tuesday, May 20, 2014 // 2 comments
H&M Sandals With Rhinestones, $34


i'm penning this from my hotel room, 36 have died.
Wednesday, April 30, 2014 // 16 comments
I'm penning this from my hotel room in Pensacola, FL - where the floods have hit. 36 People have been reported dead and two of them have drowned in their cars only a few miles up the road from where I'm writing this. The ceiling of the mall I just got a pedicure in a few days ago, has collapsed and locals are fearing for their lives as roads are caving in and collapsing at random places, unexpectedly.

I broke down this morning when recapping the events that transpired the night before to my mom, who lives 10 hours away, all because I couldn't help but to wonder if any of the people looking for shelter were the ones my coworkers and I were told to turn away by the investment owner of the luxury hotel chain I work for. As individuals flooded into our sold out hotel property the evening prior, our concern was safety so we referred each and every person who walked in, to a hotel near by. One not affiliated with our brand, but one that was sure to be the safest property to get to from our location and the only one on this side of town known to have rooms left. Our franchise owner, however, happened to walk into our building in the midst of it all, ironically waiting for one of his friend's private jets to land at our airport's private landing dock - which he too, also owns.

He walked up to our desk, as we scrambled to print out in-house guest records, in the event that the flickering power decided to go out and stated: How often is the entire city sold out? Why are you guys referring people to another hotel not affiliated with us? We smirked, gently, hoping that his concerns weren't about to go into the direction we thought it would, but he followed up by telling us, "let's keep it in the family" and suggested that we only send individuals to his properties - which were 20-25 minutes away, on the beach.

My heart immediately broke, as individuals came in. Noteably, the couple with the newborn baby and the blind and disabled man whose flight had been cancelled due to the severe weather. A cab ride to the beach would have easily been $30-$50 with the weather being as bad as it was. And the hotel prices on the island were $70+ more than the last inland property left with rooms. While some individuals took our preprinted directions to the beachfront properties that boasted ocean views, others snarled at us, letting us know that the roads had since reached 4-7 inches of rain just here in town.

So there he sat, catty-corner to our European designed front desks, interjecting in between guest and instructing us on how to better sell each one his other properties. "Make the reservation for them while they're here, so we can lock them in", he stated in his most elementary voice. A suggestion that thankfully failed as guest wisely declined - not knowing how it would be humanly possible to cross the two bridges (one being a three mile one) that crossed over large masses of water.

9pm was upon us and he finally decided to pack up his laptop and tablet to leave but first he thanked us "for being rockstars" before heading out to his vehicle, reassuring us that the storm would pass in the next thirty minutes.

Once he left, more and more individuals began coming into our doors asking for shelter. It was at that point that we handed each a blanket and told them "we're sold out, but feel free to sleep wherever you'd like in here." We were uneasy by the franchisees prior requests and after resurrecting the power for the third time my coworker hugged me and said "Goodbye, I'm not coming back." Her son had been home with his aunt all night and the axiety of whether or not he was okay had consumed her. Her farewell felt Titanicy as did our lobby full of local residents, flight attendants, and pilots all laid out sleeping under our 400-Thread count blankets and feather filled pillows. A sight that would be thought to be a major hotel liability but one that just felt morally right considering people were drowning in their vehicles in search for shelter.

I turned the lights out in the lobby and sat in our empty restaurant. And I couldn't help but to think about my coworker who left at the height of the storm just to make it to her ten year old, the franchisee who hadn't called to check up on any of the employees, the night shift who ended up walking to work after abandoning their vehicles that ended up in sinkholes, the greedy and racist mentality of Donald Sterling, and the words that will forever haunt me as I sat there without my family and with no safe way to make it home to, "keep it in the family."


design / loving this wom wonderland
Tuesday, April 1, 2014 // 9 comments
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Wom Cafe Restaurant Corporate Interior Design Identity // by kraf & co / dilem akiner, onur tatver, tuğçe tuzcuoglu


100 Creative Millenials Of Color
Monday, March 31, 2014 // 13 comments

+ alex elle
+ alicia zakon
+ alyssa francois
+ amanda friend
+ amanda george
+ amber, and yes to joy
+ amy wall
+ angela flournoy
+ angel, kisforkinky
+ andrea pippins, fly girl blog
+ asiyami gold
+ aylin, one young traveler
+ bdub585
+ bee walker
+ brandy brown
+ brianna mccarthy
+ brittany holloway-brown
+ camille p.
+ chai, back to curly
+ charlotte, milk n' honee
+ chérmelle d edwards
+ chidinma
+ daniela yohannes
+ datrianna meeks
+ dayka robinson
+ desiree venn frederic, xoDVF
+ dfinney
+ donna and nailah
+ erika layne
+ gg, all the many layers
+ iva jay
+ jamala johns
+ jassieuo
+ jazzie mcg
+ jeanine hays
+ jeneil williams
+ jessica alma
+ jessica rycheal
+ justina blakeney
+ kendra dandy
+ keturah ariel
+ kia, girly and inspired
+ kimberlyluxe // fromawildflower // designhergoods
+ kosisochukwu nnebe
+ kristina gill
+ krystle, kriss did it
+ l., the native newyawker
+ lauren elise
+ leslie nikole
+ love fola
+ love tara, love is near
+ lulu kitololo, afri-love
+ margaret jacobsen
+ mariah thomrpson
+ melissa renee, unisixx
+ mickalene thomas
+ mina markham
+ miss enocha
+ miss kris turner
+ monica, illegal writing
+ myleik, curl box
+ nayyirah waheed
+ nemiepeba
+ nesha designs
+ netta marshall
+ nicole gibbons, so haute style
+ nicole lennox
+ niki mcneill
+ nikis groove
+ rachel stewart jewelry
+ rekita, her and nicole
+ rochelle jordan
+ rurujungle
+ sara washington
+ schwanda rountree
+ shacs, a city jane
+ shae, a skoope home
+ shavonda g.
+ shayla cox
+ shanice cameron
+ schwanda rountree
+ studio404
+ taiye selasi
+ tanea
+ tallncurly
+ tatiana gabrie
+ teff the don
+ the knight twins
+ ojo
+ oromo elewa
+ philece, that artista
+ sana keefer
+ simply cyn, addicted2etsy
+ shinique smith
+ today i'm bobbi
+ vanessa bisoux
+ wangechi mutu
+ wanna jean
+ warsan shire
+ whitney
+ zakiyyah, visual ideologies
and there are so many more! know some worth the shout? consider the comments section above, part two!

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